Every time Pamela Mackenzie, 41, lost a baby, she questioned her own health.
Pamela and her 44-year-old husband Ian tried having a family through IVF and fertility treatment, but regrettably, nine of her pregnancies ended before they reached the fifth or sixth week.
After years of suffering, the couple finally welcomed their “miracle” baby, Patrick, who is now three, in 2018 after traveling to Prague for IVF.
The mother, who was 12 when she received a diagnosis of polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS),
Pamela is now a volunteer for the International Fertility Company, which helps those seeking fertility treatment both abroad and in the UK. She wants to give hope and support to other individuals going through a difficult time.
It’s the way you feel after someone has passed away or you’re experiencing heartbreak. Pamela, a native of Edinburgh, Scotland, said.
After years of suffering, the couple finally welcomed their “miracle” baby,
“It feels like you’re experiencing a nightmare, and no one is there to support you,” she said. You feel less of a woman and wonder, “What’s wrong with me?”
“There is not enough awareness or assistance; you can only discover support once you begin your own research.”
Pamela’s pregnancies occasionally ended before she was able to reach the hospital, but other times they continued for five or six weeks.
She wants doctors to be more sympathetic to the severe emotional suffering that comes with miscarriage.
The NHS is overworked, yet she stated that she felt there wasn’t enough help.
I once received a counseling offer after reaching six weeks, but I wasn’t in the correct state of mind to accept it.
It would be wonderful if someone stopped by and spoke with you, or perhaps there was a place you could enter to sit down and cry a little.
The mother, who was 12 when she received a diagnosis of polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), recalls how medical personnel came off as “extremely matter-of-fact” and blunt when breaking the devastating news to expectant parents.
She recalled hearing from a hospital employee once that there was nothing she could do because she would bleed and miscarry whether she was sitting or lying down.
Pamela experienced an ectopic pregnancy in 2010 while on vacation in Blackpool.
She was sent home by the medical professionals following a negative pregnancy test.
The mother recalled, “I sat in anguish the entire coach ride back to Edinburgh and then I went straight to A&E where they discovered it was ectopic.”
Women should be treated more seriously since they are familiar with their own bodies.
Other times, she received foolish comments from individuals who misunderstood her circumstance and said that she should be glad with her ability to become pregnant.
Pamela added that because they don’t know how to broach the matter, people, even in her inner circle, prefer to steer clear of it.
Women who have experienced it want to talk about it because doing so helps, she added. “People just don’t discuss it because they don’t know what to say,” she said.
Source : metro.co.uk
